Do you ever wonder why you wanted kids? As infants, they don’t sleep and don’t stop crying. Then, they go to school and cost huge amounts of dollars. When they hit the teenage years, you sometimes conclude you should never have had them. Then, they leave. And, after a few minutes, you miss them.
There is actually no way any parent ever wonders “why did I have kids”. Kids bring more joy and love than anything. Kids make life wonderful for us parents. We all know that, but do you ever wonder how you’re going to deal with your child’s next problem behavior?
Our clients, (and most living human beings) have difficulty at some point in their lives with parenting. Parents are after all human beings. Kids are also human beings and they, too are imperfect. Sometimes they are very imperfect. When you have imperfect parents combined with imperfect kids, things can get messy.
Well, I put together a list of some of the problems teenagers can have. I worked with plenty of families (including my very own) through the years that have problems like the ones below. Would you look through this list and see if there is anything I left out?
bad influence of friends, entitled, refuses to do chores, argues, complains, questions why, defiant, isolates, unmotivated, substance abuse, alcohol abuse, eating disorders, poor self esteem, refuses to follow the rules, lazy, poor grades, disrespectful, rolls eyes or sucks teeth, needs reminders, yells, anger, fights with sibs, materialistic, addicted to tv, video games, face book, self harm, steals, lies, aggressive physically, sleeping problems, chatters incessantly, poor hygiene, grandiose sense of self, mood changes, no friends, refuses to take accountability, bullies, is bullied, manipulative, identifies with the dark side of life, bad attitude, mocks, silent treatment, never home, always in room, curfew violation, walks away, condescending, criminal behavior, school behavior, whining, ignoring, cigarettes, chew, anxiety, test anxiety, uncooperative, defiant, stubborn, secretive, temper, intentionally destroys property, brags, sulks/pouts, bad language, too sexual, irresponsible, does not respond to consequences, talks back.
Did I leave anything out?
While these problems are not abnormal for teens, they need to be addressed if they become pervasive. That’s where we come in. Let us help when you cannot get your teenagers’ problem fixed. We are the experts with teens. Which really says a lot - even teens aren’t experts at being teenagers.
Fixing teenagers’ behavior problems begins with trying to figure out why a child is having problems. Why is this person like this? That’s the question. Sometimes just a quick assessment with a professional can help. Figure out why your teen is like this and then you can begin to remediate the problem.
Perfect Parenting is our powerful program for all parents. We are the experts. Call or text us if we can be of help. Get the why, then fix it.